Can I Really Be Friends With You?

Anonymous Author

It’s incredibly sad to see how polarized politics has become, and how quickly a friendship can become distant when you talk about politics. This Fourth of July, I was thinking of our division – with some Americans following the advice of public health experts and not holding barbecues, others perceived a threat that has killed over 150k people as a hoax. I try not to become divided or have my friendships viewed negatively when someone explains their political views, but I find it harder and harder to do so.

How can I have a positive view of you when you support someone who rolled back anti-discrimination laws that protected the LGBTQ community? How can I be friends with you when you support a man who knew about COVID-19 since December but didn’t act at once, leading to the deaths of 150,000 people? How can I be friends with you when you support a man who called for the death of five innocent black men and refused to apologize for it? When a man who made fun of the disabled is someone you support, when you’re not upset that his criminal friends are getting away with crimes, I can’t ignore the bad light those views shed upon you. As the politicians you support classify “very fine people” as those generalizing Muslims as terrorists, how am I supposed to trust you?

You may not be racist, but simultaneously, you are a fan of a President who couldn’t even fathom that a black man was eligible to hold the same office. You may not be xenophobic, but you decided it was okay that asylum seekers were dying in cages with chemicals sprayed on them. In your defense, you say I like what he’s doing with the economy. Even though much of the economic success has been linked to the Obama administration, does the economy outweigh what he is doing to millions of people? Would you tell the innocent people being drone-struck that your view on the economy was the reason they got killed? A man who cuts taxes for the rich and takes away healthcare for the poor is something you admire? 

I wish politics was as simple as I thought it was when I was younger. I thought identifying with political ideology would be something like choosing which ice cream flavor you want. Unfortunately, it’s not that simple and people get harmed due to the way you vote. I will never treat you differently because of the way you vote or the politics you support. But in the back of my mind, it will be hard to forget you can support recurring atrocities.

your america

Saanvi Nayar ’22

when your america was founded
i had no place in the narrative
for the term American Indian 
was coined to compensate 
for the exotica
of how, in 1492, 
columbus sailed the ocean blue
and missed -
entirely. 

when your america was founded
my kind had no place on the ballot
for a brown-skinned woman 
was not worth 
the weighted glance
of a white man’s most trivial thought. 

when your america was founded,
my stance had no representation in history
for my land of the free
was built, cherished, and raised
to undermine who i am,
suppress all with which i stand for.

for i am now resigned 
to accept my absence in the narrative,
but in parting from my
white-washed education,
surely you can teach me the art 
of love, unreciprocated,
after condemning me to worship a country
founded to not love me back.

when your america was founded 
broad stripes and bright stars,
consider how its history 
founded me.

History Survives, Even if Statues Don’t

Zara Branigan ’22

May 8, 1945. The end of the second world war. Union jacks flying high and their spirits with it. The man everyone wants to thank is, of course, Mr Winston Churchill. He was on the front lines for the free world, a man grasping onto Western democracy, even as the Nazis yanked at his fingers. 1950 Time magazine called him the “man of the half century”. People believe he was a glorious man, a vigorous man, a harbinger of the oldest established British values: perseverance, pride and strength.

Some argue rightly so, but spray painted onto his statue are the words:

“Churchill was a racist.”

Some rhetoric he applied to people of colour was “beastly”, “barbaric hordes” and as he squashed rebels in Sudan, he declared he was proud to have killed those “savages.” He was happily imperialistic, trumpeting that “Aryan stock is bound to triumph.” We placed him on a pedestal. Now that pedestal is hidden under layers, shielded from protesters and counter-protesters alike.

The marking of his statue drove a wrench into an already gridlocked debate on what to do when we hear great men aren’t that great. The protestors are angry about the wider statues in Britain, as statues celebrate both the person and their ideas—even if they’re racist, sexist, xenophobic. As taxpayers, we pay for some of these statues. Should we, as a so-called progressive society, welcome statues that are against every value we’ve been taught?

We’ve already enacted laws to prohibit hate speech; clarifying we have understood what ideas we don’t want within our society. If we ‘topple the racists’, we’re sending a message about the society we want to live in. Critics may claim that we’re throwing the baby out with the historical bathwater; that we need these statues to teach us the lessons of our history. If we don’t have a plan, their rhetoric will become a self-fulfilled prophecy.

Human beings are complex—with complex problems, emotions and beliefs. No one is purely virtuous or evil. The same goes for history. The same goes for this debate. A common consensus with the protesters is that those who want to keep the statue of Churchill are racist with a hint of good old nationalist Britain. On the other side, all they see is a futile erasure of our history for a symbolic gesture. We shouldn’t swap one simplistic idea for another, but by refusing to engage in a discussion, we unknowingly are. There is a silver lining in this cloud of disconnected culture: there’s common ground. Both sides want to preserve history the right way. The question is, what is the right way?

In terms of the statues, I have two propositions:

1. We move all statues to museums.

Even if we eliminate statues of all problematic people, our society wouldn’t lessen in its beliefs. We can’t allow the halo-like symbolism of the moment to distract from the slow and complicated movement of real change. We should have better ambitions. We need to address the underlying problems without censoring history—good and bad. Museums are the solution. They take elements of history and give the additional context needed to interpret and understand them. They are often free and unbiased, meaning the public can still enjoy the statues and there is no argument about the legitimacy of the person.

2. We establish a council for statues.

The council can decide, review and take action on the statues. They could be a group of professors, historians and other academics engaged in preserving all sides of history. Their first action could be to provide every current statue with a plaque depicting all factions of their history. Their second action could be to consider what statues the public want—through polling, debates and votes. Beyond what the government can do, there are two things us everyday people can do to understand the full history. We can read, watch, listen and learn the history of then and the history of now. When learning, some aspects of British history may be uncomfortable or even shameful. But there is potential in discomfort. Without it, there’s no growth. We can also be aware. We’re living in a time of great division and lacklustre understanding.

Some statues I’d like to see in the UK: Jack Leslie: Leslie was the only professional Black football player in England during his time. When he about to become England’s first non-white player, the selectors realized he was Black and rejected him. With the onslaught of racism in football today, he is a trailblazer in the struggle for inclusivity in sports.

Mary Wollstonecraft: Author of A Vindication of the Rights of Woman, she never allowed prejudice to stand in her way of becoming a historically significant author. During her era, the role of women was to satisfy her husband and bear children. Wollstonecraft, unfulfilled in this role, broke the law by rescuing her sister from an abusive husband. She later argued for women’s independence in a time where rights for women was inconceivable.

Mary Shelley: Wollstonecraft’s daughter and protégé, she quickly educated herself and engulfed the revolutionary spirit her mother perpetuated. She ran to Paris at 16 with her husband and renowned poet, Percy Shelley. Although she couldn’t vote, obtain her own money or be viewed as an equal, she wrote Frankenstein at 19. She’s now regarded as the mother of gothic fiction.

Olive Elain Morris: Part of the British Black Panthers and a grassroots campaign, she was an advocate in the fight against police brutality. In 1969, 17-year old Morris intervened in the arrest of a Nigerian diplomat for a parking offence. The police gave her a three-month suspended sentence for two years, and during that time, they threatened her with rape. With her experiences, she uncovered racism, sexism and police brutality in the UK. Much of her activism was community-focused; she created safe spaces in Brixton, including the first Black community bookshop in South London. She’s an ordinary icon for community activism, especially in the struggle against police brutality.

History itself is a collection of perspectives; it’s not just our job to understand what those perspectives are— it’s our job to understand why they’ve been recounted. Question everything. Listen deeply. Don’t allow your voices to go unheard. History survives, even if statues don’t.

Prejudice & Judgement

Rohan Lokanadham ’23

As said by the author “Some people think that it is so easy to come out. They say that people care for some time but then forget about it. But that’s not how it is. Every time someone says any one of these things that I have stated in the poem, it shows their homophobia. These are things people in the LGBTQ+ community have to deal with every single day, and not only that, but they hear from their friends and family. I feel like I can’t ever truly be myself, because people will look down upon me for that. I get scared to have a “gay voice”, so I make my voice deeper when talking to strangers. I have to go through all of this just to hide my true self, and sometimes it makes me not want to be myself anymore. My anger and frustration about this, reflects who I am. This is how I feel. I feel that society needs a change, a major one, and it needs to happen soon.”

Why can’t I be myself,
I don’t understand.
Wherever I go, there's the judgement, 
The prejudice of the gay kid. 
That’s all I am, isn't it. 
“Shut up, you like men” 
“You’re gay” 
“You don’t count ‘cause you gay”
Why?
Why am I invalid because of my sexuality? 
These are the questions I ask myself everyday. 
These are the questions that make me wonder if I’m valued. 
I don’t wanna be myself.

()

Yasmine Patel ’23

it might be strange to see a brown girl
in this neighborhood-
sitting on her driveway
bent over in concentration
wiping the sweat off her brow
and replacing it with a layer of colored chalk 
that blanketed her calloused hands. 
the white people pass by in their trucks 
roll down their windows, 
and look out to see what task is so 
alluring 
so fascinating 
where she won’t even look away from the ground
to see the passerby’s. 
they might roll their eyes and keep driving
disgusted by the flag 
that she carefully sketches
on the blacktop. 
the little kids who walk past her
might just see a rainbow, 
and start to excitedly search 
for the pot of gold that follows. 
but she never looks up. 
even after she lays down her chalk, 
claps her hands together and forms
a hazy cloud of color and dust. 
even after she carefully writes in block letters
“happy pride month.” 
she only looks up at the white man before her
who gawks at the letters she scribbled on her driveway. 
she laughed-
obviously amused at his discomfort
and gathered up her box of chalk and walked away
leaving the man staring after her 
in a mixture of awe and confusion. 

aim for the head

Bhakti Patel ’22

you will not defeat me.
i’ll let you try
come on, i’m right in front of you, easy target practice
tip: aim for the head; my soul is bulletproof
i refuse to fall to a man like you
too pathetic to come up with a better insult than “faggot”
masculinity too fragile to be able to call his friends handsome 
i’ll steal your girlfriend before you can even throw a punch
i spent too long fighting a civil war that you cannot imagine 
to even consider you a worthy opponent
my battle scars are by my own hand; your battle scars came from a poorly picked fight in a walmart parking lot
so throw up your fists and spit your ugly words
because at the end of the day, you are a man who falls back on your archaic beliefs to justify your fear of everything different than yourself
i am sorry that my existence offends you, that you cannot pull your head out of your ass and recognize
the world has changed. 
society has shifted to make room for me and pushed you out in the process
jealous? you should be.
so come on, take out your second-amendment-guaranteed pistol and fire
and like i said: aim for the head.

Analyzing Bipartisanship: Drawing the Line with Unwarranted Division

Simran Sharma ’22

The two-party system in the United States dates back to 1792, with the Federalist Party, founded by Alexander Hamilton, and the Democratic-Republican Party, founded by James Madison and Thomas Jefferson. The ideals of these two parties were different from those present in the party system , but the precedent set by their division is one that has lasted throughout our history as a nation. It is worth mentioning that this political divide was foreseen and condemned by the very same men who caused the split. In the Federalist Papers, Alexander Hamilton and James Madison both detailed the dangers of domestic political factions. Famously, even George Washington detailed the threat of conflict and stagnation associated with political parties in his “Farewell Address”. Had these men heeded their own advice, or the advice of the first POTUS, perhaps we wouldn’t find ourselves in the political climate defining the headlines of today.

Fast-forward to the present day; what is  one of the biggest societal  rules which we find ourselves forced to adhere to? Don’t talk politics. It’s a topic which has been stamped with the scarlet letter, deemed dangerously personal. But politics are simply impersonal. It is the deep-rooted disparities which have manifested into disdain between both ends of the political spectrum that elicit such fervor. Political conversations are considered taboo, not because the subject is intrinsically divisive, but because we allow it to be.

Now, this is not to say that we shouldn’t form and hold firm to our own ideals. The beauty in this modern era is that we have a wealth of knowledge at our disposal, and we can pair this information with our morals to establish our political stances. However, there is a thin line between fierce belief and a closed mind. The polarization which plagues our nation will not be conducive to creating lasting change going forward, but will rather further a climate devoid of conversation.

Politics are subjective, which is why multiple parties exist in the first place. Treating our inclinations as factual has led to the political turmoil we see play out in the media every day. If you’re a Republican, you’re deemed racist, and if you’re a Democrat, you’re a snowflake. These generalizations paired with unwarranted aggression have created a palpable hostility between the left and right. Of course, there is basis to the differing stances on both sides, meaning that disagreement is inevitable. It is how these disagreements are dealt with that has created the deadlock between both ends. In so many cases, it is no longer about coming to a constructive resolution, but rather attacking the other side. Naturally, both conservatives and liberals hold that their positions on issues are the best. This is important to creating legislation in our country, but when no one is willing to listen, it leads to a mundane standstill which is detrimental to our progression as a nation.

The reason why there are clear party lines is because people align themselves with the ideals which they believe are most conducive to the betterment of the United States. In the case of politicians, true morals may be muddled by monetary incentives, but the average American sides with what they believe in. Yet, politics in this country have become a moral battleground filled with genuine hatred. While both sides may not agree with each other, most Americans have the same objective in doing what’s right for society. 

Given, certain ethical issues which are poorly handled under the political microscope deservedly cause outrage, but shortcomings in morality such as racism, sexism, homophobia, etc., can not be wholly conflated with one side and considered a defining trait. Similarly, simply deeming a whole side ‘annoying’ or sensitive because they don’t agree with you is not a valid argument, nor is it helpful in creating any meaningful change.

Gen Z. We’re supposed to be the most tolerant, politically-involved generation to date. While the latter mostly holds true, we seem to be doing no better in the open-mindness aspect – after all, we have been brought up alongside the rise of digital media. This should have cultivated a culture which celebrates diversity of thought through countless channels of communication. Instead, however, we are perhaps the worst offenders in the political war. We are stubborn. While our ability to hold steadfast to our beliefs and our advocacy of these beliefs on social media have done worlds of good, it has been taken to a fault, demeaning others on account of their surface-level political beliefs. We pride ourselves on being independent of the prejudice of our parents, and thankfully, most of us are. However, our generation holds biases of our own.

Ultimately, as with so many historical disputes, the issue lies in generalizations. Once a person is known to hold a certain opinion on one topic, they are suddenly assumed to fit a certain mold. There is so much fluidity in politics, which is why it’s a spectrum, not a binary. While it may be true that certain stereotypes are grounded in truth, they don’t apply to every person. We have imposed certain political boxes into the mainstream, but fail to realize that most people don’t fit these cut and dry labels. While most people lean left or right, it doesn’t mean that they fully align with the traditional Republican or Democrat label. At our core, we are people, not political puppets. Aligning with certain principles towards either side doesn’t necessarily translate to always voting on party lines.

The now normalized way in which both sides abhor each other has led to a nation divided. Amidst the unprecedented murder of George Floyd, there has been a surge in support for the BLM movement and a strong sentiment towards police reform. This has sparked a heightened amount of hostility between the political left and right. While there are certain specific issues which could be points of contention, the basis of this movement, eliminating racism and implementing policies against police brutality, seems to be a given of common human decency. This situation is not an issue of conservative or liberal, but rather of humanity. Yet, still, it has been defaced into a political battle.

Granted, some tension between the left and right is fundamental to a two-party system. If there are two defined sides, vying for control to implement legislation based on their beliefs, there is bound to be a power struggle between them. However, the degree to which this tension has escalated is unwarranted. How is it a widely accepted norm for people to attack each other based on their beliefs? This is not a defense of extremism on either side, as the attack on that is warranted. But we have closed our minds to each other, and we are bound to suffer because of that. Is this a commentary on the failings of a two-party system as a whole, or on the antagonizing which we have chosen to succumb to? Is the hostility an inevitable product of the system, unavoidable by human nature? Honestly, this I don’t know, but we should come together as people, not parties, to discuss it.